Some persons are in a relationship that would end up in a crickets web and never really finding true delight and fulfillment, dreams chattered, hearts broken, trust defiled that is the situation.

So let me tell you how to detect a relationship might not push through…

1. When Communication becomes stale, dry, too often than not most relationship kick the bucket when there is no willingness to communicate.

So someone asked, well in my relationship we talk! thats is communication Right? Emphatical No!

Communication is beyond talking casually but getting to unravel each other’s vulnerability, strength, fears and all of that. Until this happens suffice me to say you don’t communicate.

2. Mutual Respect:

When the relationship lacks respect for each other. Relationship begin to dwindle when individual talk about their partner to others in a ruthless manner.

3. Lack of Trust:

You can really tell when your partner don’t trust you, then they ask series of suspicious, inordinate questions, like where have you been, why are you still awake, who where you on the phone with, called before you didn’t pick up, why are you in that dress?

All of this questions tells, your relationship lacks trust. Trust is a decision you make towards your partner as long as you love them, unnecessary suspicion will do you no good.

4. Constant/ Frequent Disagreement:

I very well understand that there will be ups and downs in a relationship, because you are from two different backgrounds and you tend to see or reason differently but when misunderstanding happens too often there is an obvious sign that you guys are not compatible. Several times I have been with two people in a relationship and I hear them argue over almost everything, including little things that should just past by.

….Decided to register at a gym so I can put my body in great shape, meanwhile I was about 28 years old with a great career as a banker I realized that the nature of what I do don’t give me much opportunity to unwine as a top managerial staff at my bank I was always attending to alot of files, I was comfortable in every sense of comfort but the only thing lacking in my life was a lover.

….Thought carefully on how to get my own man without being a man chaser, I attended the gym classes and then noticed a tall dark and handsome guy who seems to be an instructor by all standard he fits into the picture of an ideal guy, my heart leap like a foetus in the womb, I could literally see how I fit perfectly into his kind of person yet I haven’t met him…hmmmm

I really liked him so I walked up to him and asked him if he could help me out on my shape seeing that he is in great shape, so he smiled and said yes of cause, and that was how the training went he showed me some amazing moves, thanked him and asked I don’t even know your name and you are my instructor, hoops we laughed and we exchanged cards and that was it…He is now the one calling for a date and today we are married.

Are you currently in a relationship with a guy who is fun to be with, and breaks the ice anytime you are together.

He professes his unending love to you and how much he can’t do without you, but that’s just it, he isn’t asking for more commitment, like getting married to you and it pisses you off?

Tips on how to get him to commit

1. Stop asking him to commit to you :

When you make every opportunity you have to enjoy a fundate with him all about the “question” when are we getting married?

It’s gives him the impression that you are desperate, nobody wants a Desperado for a spouse.

2. Don’t depend so much on him:

Ladies who always depend on a guy to provide everything for them will find it very difficult to get him to commit.

He wants to know that you have your own life and you can be happy without him.

3. Keep a healthy distance:

Don’t be too available and at the same time don’t be no where to be found, before he finishes dialing your number, you are already waiting to pick or return the call or messages. Have your own life, be lost doing your own thing, in line with your purpose and vision.

Let him know that you know your worth and you can be on your own and still have a life.

4. Have A Friendly Disposition to their Friends and Family:

Most people don’t put into consideration the role of the friends and family to their partner, they play a major role for some people that have them.

So you want to be nice to them so they can speak good of you while you are not there.

5. Show Appreciation:

When you receive a gift from him, be quick to say thank you, rather than complain about the size, or the colour, or the fact that it’s not what you wanted.

6. Don’t Mother Him:

Guys, because of their ego tends to move away from controlling partners who wants to track down every move they Make.

So questions like, “where have you been all day? “I have been trying to get to you, no response”

“Where were you last night I came over? Questions like this really gets him turned off. Don’t make him scared of committing to you by marrying you.

I hope these tips really helps.

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